Couples Therapy Resources
Free Online Tools To Save Your Marriage
If you care about the future of your marriage and your family.
You owe it to them to do everything you can to make your marriage work
Resources to support you on your journey of making your marriage
golden again.
Finding the right couples counselor is a big decision.
Here is a list of questions to ask your couples counselor before your first session:
We’ve answered the questions below, in case you were interested.
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This is a personal question, but if you want the best chance of success, it’s best to be led by a couples counseling team who actually has a successful marriage. Besides, you’re not asking them about their sex life. That’s what they’re going to ask you about. :P
Yes, we have a golden marriage and have been together for 23 years and counting. We work extremely well together, and we believe that a golden marriage is the foundation for all beautiful things in life.
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If the couples counselor doesn’t list a beginning, middle, and end to the process of working together, chances are they are just winging it. Every week, you’ll just talk about what has happened in between your sessions.
They should have a step-by-step customized plan laid out for you. Otherwise, you’re going to get the same cookie-cutter approach of talking about your feelings and working on your communication.
You do your research by exploring our website, listening to our podcast, reading our book, or joining our free online class. If you feel we could help you, book a free call where we see if we are the right match. If we are, it is a 12-week program, with daily support and guidance. You can learn more about the process in the free class we offer.
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If the marriage counselor has a podcast, book, class, or other written reports they can share with you, it’s important you review them before deciding to work together.
Many of our free tools are on this page. You can check out our FB page and IG handle @goldenmarriage.88 to learn more about us.
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If you don’t have a free first session with them, you may waste your time and money as you don’t know if you align with their style of marriage counseling or coaching.
We do offer a free call to those who watch our online masterclass. We answer most of your questions in the class.
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You want to know if their professional training is aligned with your goals. Perhaps, they base their couples counseling practice on a particular religion or philosophy that doesn’t match yours.
Together, we have over 30 years of experience as therapists and coaches helping men and women with their mindset, physical health, and relationships. We have Gottman L1 & L2 training, as well as Emotional-Focused Therapy with Dr. Sue Johnson. Our Golden-Marriage Method™ is holistic, and based on neurochemistry and behavioral sciences. It models the 12-step AA program that has a high success rate for rehab for substance addiction. Our program and philosophy are based on the cumulative experiences we have had both personally, professionally, and clinically.
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It’s important that they be honest with you, while of course, maintaining confidentiality of the clients they work with. You’re not asking for personal names or details of other clients, you just want to know if your marriage has a good chance. You want to look for a couples counselor who is 100% confident in their ability to help you, and that their program could work for you.
For the couples who show up and actually do the recommended work to heal their marriage, we have an 88.9% success rate. For the ~1/10 couples who decide to separate, it’s always because one of them does not show up to do the work and be accountable to their marriage. In those cases, the partner is 100% satisfied in that he/she gave it everything they had before deciding to separate.
Why Married Couples Should Consider Couples Therapy with The Golden Marriage Method™
We’ve compiled a list of the 10 most common struggles that married couples present to us.
Can you identify any of these struggles in your marriage?
Take The Golden Marriage Quiz Below to see if the right couples therapy program is right for you.
Scoring:
Often = 3 points
Sometimes = 2 points
Rarely = 1 point
Never = 0 points
Constant Fighting/Disagreements
Do you feel like your partner doesn't understand, agree, or listen to your feelings, concerns, or desires and this leads to arguments?
When couples fight or disagree often, they do not see eye-to-eye on many important issues in the family and relationship.
Financial stress
Do you frequently argue or feel tension with your partner over financial matters?
When there’s tension in the bank, there’s tension in the marriage and in the home, causing sleepless nights.
Intimacy Issues
Do you feel distant or lack both physical and emotional intimacy with your partner?
There’s a lack of satisfaction around physical connection, touching, or passion in and out of the bedroom.
Parenting Conflicts
Do you often disagree or argue about how to raise or handle issues concerning your children?
When couples fight or disagree often, they do not see eye-to-eye on many important issues in the family and relationship.
Work stress
Do work or business-related issues cause tension or arguments in your relationship?
One of you may be working too much (or too little), and is not spending enough time on making the marriage better
Identify issues
Do you or your partner express feelings of uncertainty about individual identities or life's purpose?
One of you may be feeling a lack of purpose, lost, or confused about your role in the home.
Unresolved past conflicts
Are there past issues or conflicts that still create tension or discomfort in your relationship?
One of you may be holding on to past trauma, resentment, anger or guilt about what has happened in your relationship previously.
Health Issues
Do health concerns create significant stress or strain in your relationship?
One of you may be struggling with health issues, and they are affecting the energy of the relationship.
Discrepancy in personal growth
Do you feel you and your partner are growing apart or evolving in different directions?
One of you may want to grow, take chances, and make changes, while the other one is adamant about keeping things the same.
Boredom
Do you feel your relationship has become monotonous or routine-driven without much excitement or novelty?
Maybe you’ve been together for too long and your relationship has just lost its spark.
Results of the Couples Therapy Quiz:
0-10 points:
Your relationship seems to be on stable ground. Nevertheless, continuous open communication and mutual understanding are always beneficial.
10-20 points:
Some areas of concern exist in your relationship. Consider discussing these topics with your partner or seeking the right couples therapist to help you address potential issues.
20-30 points:
Multiple red flags are present. It is important to seek the right couples therapy program to understand and address the underlying problems.
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Best Seller
Free Couples Counseling Book
The Golden Marriage Guidebook
Discover The 3-Step System That Helps Couples Make Love More Often, Argue Less, and Finally See-Eye-To-Eye, So They Can Create A Happy and Healthy Home For Their Family
You can rediscover the gold and magic in your marriage.
Even after everything that has happened in the last few years.
Your marriage is your golden ticket to having everything you want in life - love, freedom, connection, and abundance. But, somewhere along the way, the gold got buried and lost in the chaos of running a busy lifestyle and household. Most modern-day marriages end up stagnant or broken not because of a lack of love, but because of a lack of alignment, shared priorities, and deep connection.
Ten years from now, what do you want to remember about how you showed up for your marriage?
If you have the desire to heal your relationship wounds and go from marital crisis to marital bliss, this book may be for you. This book is written for people who desire a happy, peaceful, and deep connection in their marriage, without having to go through years of couples therapy, resentment, or a nasty divorce.
Download it for free, by signing up to the Golden Marriage Newsletter.
The Golden Marriage Method healed our hearts!
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Business-minded couple in crisis saves relationship by following The Golden Marriage Method.
Shelley & Mark - Entrepreneurial Couple
“We went from rocky to steady freddy in the first month of working with the GMM. By the end of month two, we felt like we were soaring again, just like when we first met! We can't thank Nancy & Brian enough."
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Old-school retired couple renews marriage after years of going through the motions and taking each other for granted.
- Joey & Catherine
"For years we struggled with fighting and nagging. When we retired, we knew we needed a new way of being because we were driving each other crazy at home. When we found the GMM, we were thrilled that it worked for us so quickly! After 36 years of being married, we feel like newlyweds again!"
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New parents thrive after a tumultuous first year
-Kevin & Molly
“We honestly didn’t know it was going to be THAT hard. Getting pregnant was hard enough, so we thought that having our baby would fix everything. It didn’t. We didn’t want her to feel that she was the reason our marriage fell apart. This is why we decided to give The Golden Marriage Method a try. We are so blessed and grateful that it got us through a hard time, and we are better now than we have ever been!”
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Party couple renews marriage after extramarital affairs
- Sara & Dave
“We both stepped out on our marriage. We both lost faith and hope that things could be golden again, but neither of us could go through with the divorce. We never really gave it an honest shot, until we came across The Golden Marriage. Everything else was complicated, one-sided, or dragged on for too long. Our relationship was already complicated. We wanted a simple process for healing and moving forward, and that’s exactly what we got when we worked with Nancy and Brian.”
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Couple falls back in love after being separated
- Mandy & Suresh
“We lived apart for a year and when we moved back in, we tried to make it work. We kept fighting about the chores, the kids, and the house. We even fought about going to couples therapy. But when we saw how holistic the Golden Marriage Method is, we had an intuitive feeling it could work for us. It sure did. We were both holding on to so much resentment and pain. We had a beautiful renewal and we feel so confident in our next 50 years together.”
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Post-pandemic couple survives through lost jobs
- Ben & Stacey
“Things were already rough before 2020. But when both of us were working from home all the time, we were at each other’s throats. We felt like we were suffocating. When we saw The Golden Marriage Masterclass, we were so hopeful that it could work for us. We knew we had to give each other space and heal as a couple. We just didn’t know how to do it on our own. We are so grateful for this journey because we feel we are so solid in our relationship, and we feel proud that we are being good role models for our teen girls.”
