How To Fix A Broken Marriage
How Cindy & Matthew Fixed Their Marriage
Cindy and Matthew were like many couples out there. They had been married for over 15 years and had two kids, 12 and 14. She has a part-time business selling skincare products and Matthew is a consultant in the food industry who travels often for work.
Life had its ups and downs, and they found themselves heartbroken. They were so lost as to how to heal on their own. They tried couples therapy, but that was the one thing they agreed on. It wasn’t working for them.
They reached out to us when they were sleeping in separate bedrooms, feeling cold and distant, and not agreeing on the direction of their future. They thought their marriage was broken and they wanted to know how to fix it.
Problems:
Communication Breakdown: One of the biggest issues they faced was communication. They would argue about the littlest things, like who should do the dishes or whose turn it was to pick up the kids from school. These small arguments turned into big fights, and they couldn't seem to talk without shouting.
Lack of Intimacy: Over the years, their physical and emotional connection had dwindled. They were more like roommates than a loving couple. Intimacy had become a distant memory, and they missed that spark.
Feeling Unappreciated: Both Cindy and Matthew felt unappreciated in the relationship. They didn't feel like their efforts were acknowledged. Cindy felt like Matthew didn't notice the things she did around the house, and Matthew felt like Cindy didn't appreciate his hard work to provide for the family.
Parenting Conflicts: Parenting their two kids had become a source of tension. They disagreed on discipline, how to handle the kids' school issues, and even what extracurricular activities the kids should be involved in. It seemed like they were constantly on opposite sides.
How did Cindy and Matthew turn their marriage around?
They both wanted to make their marriage work, for the sake of their kids
One of them, in this case Cindy, took matters into her own hands and reached out to us. She was tired of waiting around for him to change, so she started the process.
They both had faith, even though they didn’t have the perspectives or tools before they got started.
***It takes commitment FIRST, before things can shift. You can’t expect the relationship to get better without taking a leap of faith.
Many couples wait around for things to get better before committing. That’s like saying you’ll wait until you lose weight before you start working out.
Well, they decided to seek help, and that's where we came in.
Step 1: Reset
Cindy and Matthew realized that they needed to take a step back and reset their relationship. They needed to stop the constant arguing and find a way to communicate without it turning into a battlefield. They learned that it's okay to take a break during an argument and come back to it when they were both calmer.
Step 2: Reconnect
Reconnecting was a big one for them. They started going on regular date nights again, just like when they were newlyweds. They also made an effort to get to know each other on a deeper level. They both had changed so much over the 15 years.
Step 3: Renew
Renewing their marriage was about aligning their values, the 6F values. When they did that, Matthew began to notice and acknowledge Cindy's efforts at home, and Cindy started showing appreciation for Matthew's hard work.
Marriage Transformation Results:
They started seeing vast improvements after just 2 weeks in the program. By the time we were done the 12 weeks, they had improved leaps and bounds:
They started respecting each other’s viewpoints, without arguing.
Their relationship with their kids got better, and they started having fun Friday family nights together again.
They started sleeping together, connecting more, and rekindled their sex life.
They were most happy with being able to be around each other without feeling like they were walking on eggshells.
Conclusion
So, there you have it, a real-life story of a couple who were able to figure out how to fix a broken marriage. It's a great example of how couples can work together to save their marriage and find happiness again, even if one of them is reluctant to begin.
The bottom line is, that with a little effort and the right guidance, couples like them can rescue their marriages and find the love they thought was lost.
The 3-step process is easy once you know the truth of what’s causing the rift in your marriage.
Do what Cindy & Matthew did.
Start with the free online training.
If you’ve already watched the training, book a free marriage breakthrough call HERE.
Note: Names and exact details of this case study are altered to protect client confidentiality.
